Many people ask us, should they start dating their friends. The simple answer is, it depends. You see, this is a complex topic with many opinions as there are both for and against arguments for dating a friend. If you are seriously thinking of going down this route then you need to think long and hard about what you want from it, if you viably see it working out between the two of you and the possible consequences if it doesn’t work out.
When you first start testing the waters with a friend to see if they may also be a good lover and possibly life partner for you, it can be kind of awkward at first. Flirting is often the most natural way to go. See our article here on our top tips and the best ways to flirt.
Is This A Good Idea?
In many cases it has worked out for couples who are now in long-term healthy relationships who first started off as friends. However, there are also numerous people who this scenario didn’t work out for. Here are some reasons why it can work out well;
- They already know you well
- They’ve likely already seen you at your worst
- You don’t have to go through all that awkward ‘putting your best behavior hat on’ for the first few months of the relationship
- You (probably) already know their family
- They (probably) already know your family
- The romance and getting physical stage might be awkward
- They may already feel life they are a brother or sister because they know you so well
- Crossing the line into intimacy may not be what you imagined with them
- It may not work out and consequently ruin or alter an otherwise good friendship
You see, there are several important points to consider so you must think long and hard. It can also be helpful in this situation to ask some of your friends who know the both of you for their opinion as they may be able to provide a non-bias opinion. However, if your feelings are strong enough then maybe you both really do need to be exploring things, after all, if you don’t try you may always wonder!
Here are a few videos that might help you with your decision: